Fashion: sheer fails to obscure the hearts of many

Ok, so being a guy I realize I hold very little strength in an argument about fashion. Not just a guy. A nerdy-ish, country-ish, utilitarian type of guy. I find little use for today’s brand of fashion and hope that someday we will turn, once again, to the heavily functional, less sheer, collections as opposed to the sex appeal presented by the powers that be in the fashion industry who all want one thing and one thing only, your American Dollar. They don’t care what they have to do to get it, they want it and they will get it unless you fight back with modesty. Don’t flatter yourself just because that skimpy little black dress looks great, makes you feel sexy, and get’s the guy’s attention. I mean, attention is great, but is that the only reason you wear clothes? Believe me, there’s more to life, and if you spend it looking for attention you’ll die unhappy and feeling alone. Think about it. Not just for my opinion’s sake, either.

It’s for that reason that I abhor the “it’s see through, but you can’t see everything, just most everything, and my bra covers everything else, do you like my bra?” types of clothes that seem to have made their way into popular culture and everyday coverings. The over-the-top-flirty, “I don’t care”, and  generally promiscuous attitudes that project from these lingerie-esque tops make me sick. I see girls wearing these things all the time, and yes, they are actually a really nice shirt to wear over things like tank tops, even over creatively color coordinated t-shirts or other appropriately covering tops. However, it’s the bra or bandeau (…don’t get me started…a bandeau IS, for all intents and purposes, a bra!!!) alone with a sheer shirt that makes me cringe.

Way to go. You just gave an eyeful to the general public. You’ll never get that back. Thanks a lot for pushing the general sense of personal responsibility and class down a notch in the world. Now everyone can see what was meant for your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend, and even if you aren’t to that point in your relationship, you will be someday and how then will you cope with dressing differently tomorrow with the habits you have built today? If you don’t take your relationship seriously, you’ll dress like an immature, young minded individual, so you will do nothing different and everyone will notice. Way to respect your relationship.

If you’re not in a relationship, you still have a responsibility to yourself and those around you. What kind of example do you want to set for the younger generation?!

For crying out loud.

You guys should do what you want. I’m not saying dress in sack clothes, cut square on all four corners. I’m not saying you shouldn’t feel sexy about what you’re wearing, even on a daily basis. I’m not even saying you should never wear a sheer shirt. I AM saying, modesty, time and place, appropriateness, think for yourself. Don’t let corporate clothing tell you what to wear. But please, do try to look a little harder in the mirror and ask “is this something I would want reflected upon myself in 5, 10, 15 years?” Your image, my friends. That’s what this is about. Get it?

That’s what I think. Don’t like it? Tough cookies.



A day with me, FAILED!

Okay, I started out with great intentions…we’ve all heard that before…but I couldn’t make it work out. I was asleep for part 2, at a wedding for part 3 and asleep, again, for part 4.

I learned that I won’t be doing anything like that for a while.
Just wanted to let you guys know.
What an embarrassing fail.

A day with me

Instead of writing a “how to” style piece, I’m just going to update you guys what I do in a day. I’ll start tomorrow when I wake up and stop keeping track when I go to bed. Stay tuned tomorrow! I will update every 6 hours with as much detail as I feel necessary, though I expect to turn over a few rocks throughout the day. Should turn out entertaining…

It’s a job

So in my latest job hunt I was notified about a position that I didn’t have any training for. I brushed it off and ignored the job opening for a day, due to the fact that I had no current training in that position. However, I knew I needed a job if I was going to be the supportive and providing man I want to be to my girlfriend and to my son, and of course to our cats. Keeping the lights on and food on the table would take more than hopes and dreams. Reality had sunk in a while ago about the need for money, and, because of bills and debt. I despise the green stuff. But payola is how this world is run and I knew I needed some, fast.

Despite the notice about the job, I kept looking for other employers. I wasn’t an easy hire on the market. I had hopes and a standard, neither of which wanted to drop. I had planned to find something that maintained between 4-5 of my priorities:

1) High scheduling flexibility
2) At least $13 an hour
3) High job security, barring being a complete idiot
4) Not more than a 40 minute drive from home
5) Great benefits
6) NOT A FARM!!!

Well, you get the picture. I was asking quite a bit. A little unrealistic, to be honest. Even a little bratty!

It’s funny how humility can change your perspective and even your priorities. I couldn’t find a job that met the requirements I had laid out for myself, reality started to creep up like a cold November wind…

But that’s all in the past, for now, because I eventually called the farmer and inquired about the position, which to my surprise, he hired me on the spot at the interview!

I was reminded of a midwest, USA truth: there’s always work on a farm. I’m sure it’s a truth on farms, world wide, though it’s a phrase used here in the midwest to remind the children of the farmer that there’s no escape from the farm. So, even though I had no intention of working on a farm because I had grown up on one and never enjoyed the commitment it called for (24/7, your entire life, not kidding), I find myself thanking this farmer because he is helping me become the provider I want to be again by providing me with work. Something I actually missed, once I started. More about that, later.

Even though I never had a dream of farming, farming is helping me accomplish my dreams. Ah, irony. It’s very humorous. In a way.

It made me wonder: how many other people are working at a job they would rather not be at, but, stay at for their family? I bet it’s a higher percentage than 40%. Use the poll below to help me figure it out. Thanks!

Use this poll to help me determine the answer to my question!


Catching up on sleep

The process of finding the time to sleep, prioritizing that time for the maximized potential, and applying the mechanics necessary to facilitate wholesome rest, can be a daunting task in today’s fast paced, action centric world. There are so many elements per day that prevent us from one of the most important activities we can engage in. It’s hard to regain energy throughout the day unless you rest, consume food or drink, or receive benefits from an enhancement such as drugs (prescription or non, alcohol, etc.) and therapies. So, why is it that we ignore one of the greatest needs the body could ever ask for?

 Because we just don’t care. Sort of…

One possibility is because we don’t care about our bodies. I hope that isn’t true for you, reader. The consequences of carelessness, especially when pertaining to our bodies, are pretty negative. Here’s some information, as it is aware to me, though without proper research I am probably wrong in some of my understandings…

Here’s something I found on Ezine that helps shed the light of the risks of overeating, specifically obesity.

Article Source:

When we over eat we are vulnerable to obesity, which of course increases the risks of:

  • hypertension
  • high blood pressure
  • heart disease
  • stroke
  • cancer
  • diabetes
  • endocrine problems
  • gall bladder disease
  • arthritis
  • lung and breathing  problems
  • bone deterioration
  • sleep disturbances (sleep apnea)

The article was helpful and maybe you’d like to check it out too, but that’s a list of possible disorders and conditions that could affect your health from not taking care of your body, just by overeating. Notice the last one?

How else can we not take care of our bodies? How about dehydration…

Here’s something from which is a link to a list of probable complications due to dehydration as made public from Mayo Clinic, a professional opinion when it comes to all things medical. Here is a condensed version of their list:

  • Heat injury
  • Swelling of the brain (cerebral edema)
  • Seizures
  • Low blood volume shock (hypovolemic shock)
  • Kidney failure
  • Coma and death

So, obviously, dehydration is one way to show our body we don’t care about it. Oh, by the way, there is a MULTITUDE of reasons one can become dehydrated (soda, exercise, summer heat, winter dry air, medications, medical conditions, just forgetting to drink enough water, etc.), the point is: DRINK WATER! But, if you drink less than 2 hours before bed you may need to get up in the middle of the night to relieve some pressure in your bladder. So drink water, but not before bed.

Okay, consume food in moderation and drink plenty of water. How else can we show our body we care about it? Or, actually, how can we show our body we do not care for it? Well, there’s plenty of examples, one I’m thinking of is drugs (prescription, non-prescription, alcohol) but let’s cut to the chase and talk about why we’re reading this: sleep. More specifically the loss of sleep and trying to get those lost hours back.

Before we figure out what we can do to get those hours back, we should first ask some questions: Why is sleep so important to the body? What is the definition of the inability to sleep? What causes my sleep disorders? How can I cure my sleep disorders? What are the risks of sleeping less than the body needs? How much sleep is enough, and is this number the same for everyone?

I don’t have all the answers, but I can share with you the things I agree with and have at least a little experience with. Remember, I am no learned man by any means and all my words are those of experience and the only method of learning I know how: trial by fire.

Why is sleep so important to the body?

Wow. Here, read ALL of this: It’s a great post and I encourage you to take the 5-10 minutes to read through it. Basically, it’s like this: take your computer as an example. After being on for days on end with no break, and constantly processing calculations, posting updates to Facebook and Twitter, sharing photos on Instagram, watching videos on YouTube, checking out new ideas on Pintrest, writing and reading many blogs, etc. your computer becomes warm to the touch, maybe even hot in certain areas and has started to bog down. Now, it is taking a little more time to: open up webpages, load bigger and more demanding programs, load YouTube videos…you get the picture. That is, until you take the time to restart the computer, which helps to clear some of that suspended information that is fragments of the processes of the day.

Ok, I know it’s not a perfect illustration, so let me try to say it again (because it truly is THAT important!): after a full day of thinking and making decisions and feeling emotions our brains become tired. Unlike a computer, a brain is the component of a living, breathing, feeling, dying body. It takes real energy for our brains to compose information into a form of data we can use to make decisions. When we sleep, we regain that energy BUT we also create easier paths, or channels, for our brain to use to make those processes faster which also creates a need for less energy for that particular process. There will be thousands of processes, paths, and channels the brain will be working on during sleep to provide maximum efficiency for the day ahead and it’s important to allow the brain to do what it was designed to do. So, in conclusion, sleep is important to the body for the brain to take all the mental activity of the day and decompress all the stored information so that it can work at a better efficiency.

What is the definition of the inability to sleep?

We’ve all heard the term “insomnia”. Well, let me tell you, friends, it’s a monster under the bed and it scares the hell out of me! It is defined by Wikipedia as this:

“Insomnia is most often thought of as both a sign and a symptom that can accompany several sleep, medical, and psychiatric disorders characterized by a persistent difficulty falling asleep and/or staying asleep or sleep of poor quality. Insomnia is typically followed by functional impairment while awake.”

I’ve dealt with insomnia, I know friends and family that deal with it, and let me tell you, it’s a burden. The health deprivation that accompanies insomnia is dramatic, and for good reason. There are more reasons than insomnia to explain why you may have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, but let’s explore insomnia as the reason for today.

What causes my sleep disorders?

I don’t know the answer to that. You and your health professional need to discuss your symptoms and environment to figure that out. Of course, the internet does provide some really good ideas as to what might be the root of our problem. Check this list out from, again, Wikipedia: And here’s a truncated list of some of those items:

  • Use of psychoactive drugs. Includes: prescriptions, herbs, caffeine, nicotine, and excessive alcohol intake. Also the use of cocaine and other illegal drugs.
  • Withdrawal from anti-anxiety drugs
  • Restless leg syndrome
  • Pain
  • Hormones
  • Fear, stress and anxiety
  • Constipation
  • Mental disorders
  • etc….

There’s just too many to list here and in greater detail, please check out the previously provided link for the full list. I’m sure there could be stuff that isn’t on that list that may or may not be affecting you.

How can I cure my sleep disorders?

Curing your sleep disorder may be as simple as removing soda or coffee from your nightly routine, eating earlier in the evening, turning on some relaxing music or sounds to fall asleep to, changing your sheets a little more often or buying a new pillow every six months. But, and I hope your resolution comes easily, you may find that it will take a little more work than simply deciding to change a habit or replacing a pillow. You may need to take counseling, change medications, buy a new mattress, adjust your sleep schedule, or something even more dramatic. Be prepared to explore all options as a possible source of success to your improved sleep and control over your disorder. But, I believe it will ultimately come down to taking care of any and all apparent reasons first and then explore hidden possibilities under the supervision of your health care provider.

What are the risks of sleeping less than the body needs?

We, in part, covered this already. So let me just say again: sleep is as important as good diet and proper exercise. Sleep helps your brain to decompress the thoughts of the entire day into sorted data and makes a stronger connection, faster path, or clearer channel to the processes it used during the day. This makes the next day that much more enjoyable, for your brain. Happy brain, happy day.

How much sleep is enough, and is this same number for everyone?

That’s for you to find out, and no, it is a different number for everyone. Here’s why. The body is, on a biological level, programmed to sleep at a certain point in a 24 hour period. These circadian dips add another level to some of the reasons we can’t fall asleep when we try! I, personally, get super tired between 11:30pm and 1:00am. That’s my circadian dip. Usually, if I’m awake for a 24 hour period, and I hit that circadian dip, I’m yawning, my vision goes in and out and I can’t comprehend conversations. It is, in a way, funny to watch, I must admit, but it’s a dangerous place between consciousness and unconsciousness. My friends laugh when they see me hit this point because I’m wobbling, can’t keep balance, say really random things and forget some of the most important things in my life. I don’t blame them, it is pretty hilarious to watch, but for me, it’s not a safe place. However, about an hour after my circadian dip I’m back to reality and ready to go for another day. It’s as if my mind is saying “ok, time to rest….oh, no rest, eh? *sigh* alright boys, start ’em up again!” It’s quite impressive, to me, that the body can endure so much abuse.

But, to better answer the question, the amount of sleep you need is based upon your understanding of your body. So, if you feel tired, unhappy, unmotivated, and unable to make decisions after 8 hours of sleep then you know you need to change something. Maybe it’s the time you go to bed? Finding your circadian dip and going to bed slightly before that time should provide some of the best sleep. Again, if my circadian dip is between 11:30 and 1:00 then I know I need to go to bed between 11 and 12 to take advantage of that biologically programmed time for my body to get the best rest possible.

Sometimes, there’s a kink in the chain that prevents us from fully realizing the maximum potential rest possible from sleeping with our circadian dip, such as a work schedule. Such as working at 3am. This makes it basically impossible to sleep during my circadian dip. The good news is that there is some research on the possibility of “paying back” lost sleep, which was the original intent of this post, but, I don’t know much about it, so I’ll do some research and let you know what I find.

I hope you are able to get some rest, friends!


P.S. As I’ve said in other posts, PLEASE, understand that I’m not a learned man, I don’t have an education in health, and I don’t assume any responsibility for information you read here that you decide to apply to your life. You should talk with your health professional if you are experiencing health problems that prevent you from proper sleep habits.

You Decide! Hypnosis: black magic or stupid human trick

I’ve been recently dabbling in the mystic art of hypnosis. Or, should I say, I’ve been interested, lately, in the super focused, state-of-mind, science trick called hypnosis. Either way you look at it, hypnosis is real. The purpose is what we’re after, however, not the validity of the claim of hypnosis. So, is it a black magic gate way activity, secretly luring unaware and uneducated people down a dark and immortally ill path? Or is it simply one of the stupid human tricks designed and created with good intentions and great possibility? Here, we lay out some facts and allow you to decide for yourself. When it comes to the important questions, like for instance, “is this a dark activity that will take my soul?” I want you to be at least a little more informed than when you started reading, if not having made up your mind for yourself. But first, before I start laying out the facts (which will all be based upon my experience), let me tell you of my experiences with hypnosis.

I first encountered hypnosis, like many American children, watching the TV or a movie, I forget the original exposure media, but I do remember a man holding a watch in his hand, suspended slightly above the subject’s eye level repeating the overly familiar mantra: “you’re getting sleepy”. At first impression I can recall that I surmised this was some sort of magic trick. I held that belief until I started reading comic books, which is when I believe that hypnotists held some sort of evil mind control power. Ah, the young mind. We made some wild assumptions as children, didn’t we? I mean, we never do that today…
sarcasm abounds.

I actually believed that hypnotists held evil mind control power until only a few years ago, when I saw a stage hypnotist. This guy was hilarious and incorporated a very positive hypnotic suggestion at the end of the show, which was awesome of him to gift everyone since we’re bombarded by negative and downright hateful hypnotic suggestions everyday through the media and in conversations. Who couldn’t use a little positivity? “Evil? How could hypnosis be evil when we just saw him incorporate a very positive hypnotic suggestion? He is using hypnosis to build up a healthy self image in other people.” I found it funny, to myself of course, that his for-a-positive-life hypnotic suggestion came at the end of the show, almost like a benediction at the end of a church sermon. A silly simile.
He had, before the show began, asked if anyone wanted to be a part of the show. I sat on my hands. I was there as a spectator, not a participator. I was told by my parents that hypnosis was from the devil who, by the way, controls the minds of those who dabble in the mystic arts of witchcraft and of black magic, so I wanted nothing to do with this, other than watch, of course. As I admired the bravery and the stupidity of the participants on stage I found that I was questioning the reason that hypnosis was available to us as humans. “Could we use this to our benefit somehow? Is this simply a method of entertainment? Is it possible that this is only another method of self destruction?”

One of my life long interests includes the medical field, I’ve always wanted to be a surgeon, so naturally I wondered how hypnosis would fit with that interest. I’ve spent hours online, since then, learning about hypnosis and hypnotic suggestions. Did you know there are recorded events of surgeries that have taken place without local anesthesia thanks to hypnosis? That’s amazing! Okay, now I was hooked. If there was good to be done with hypnosis I wanted to learn about it. It’s like my girlfriend always says about her wardrobe: “it’s good to have options”.
For the past 6 months or so I’ve been learning (off and on, when I have time) to read as much as I can about hypnosis and the myths that surround it. I will now show you my findings as we judge whether hypnosis is just, simply, a stupid human trick or if it really is a dark magic reserved for those destined to spend their eternity in hell.

What is it, really?

Hypnosis, basically, is an altered stated of mind that increases suggestibility. It’s this suggestibility that is the key for hypnosis to be successful. It’s in this state of mind that the hypnotist can make a hypnotic suggestion that would become ingrained in the subconscious mind and, subsequently, acted upon. For example, a man is successfully hypnotized and the hypnotic suggestion instructs him to forget the number 4. Amusing. Especially when the hypnotist pulls the man out of hypnosis and asks him to hold up his hand and count the fingers out loud. It proceeds like this:

Hypnotist: “Please, hold up your hand and count your fingers out loud.”
Man: “1, 2, 3, 5, 6. Wait, I thought I only had five fingers? …um, lemme try again…1, 2, 3, 5, 6! What?!?” and so on.

You may start to see where this becomes useful or dangerous, depending on the hypnotist and his/her intentions. This is where the definition of hypnosis becomes hazy and unclear, due to abusers with ill intent.

It’s origin.

Hypnosis is old, and a little shady. Some of the first recorded hypnosis in history includes Egypt’s old kingdom, some 5,000 years ago. It was a tool used by the priests there to aid the weary in hopefully gaining a cure for their ailments in locales called “sleep temples”. It spread through the world with much popularity. And now the shady part…
Apparently it aided oracles in their offerings, also. Oracles were employed by temples to divine the future, something that shouldn’t be performed by us mere mortals, in my opinion. You know, since we know nothing about immortality and the future, relatively speaking when compared to God, the Almighty. And since it’s not a healthy practice…just sayin’.

It’s purpose and intent.

This is completely up to the hypnotist.
Bettering lives?
An evil desire?

This is also what helps to define (for good, or evil) the current status of hypnosis. If more hypnotists were devoted to helping others battle their addictions and emotional ailments instead of trying to greedily take what does not belong to them we would have a more positive image of hypnosis. Until then, we don’t

Who can use it?

This is the funny part…ready? Anyone. Seriously. And by the way, we’re hypnotized everyday by all sorts of little things. TV, driving, work, daydreams…all can create a state of hypnosis. Oh, and by the way, you don’t need a hypnotist to be hypnotized. Actually a hypnotist doesn’t hypnotize you! You allow yourself to be hypnotized and the hypnotist only assists you. So, anyone who has ever had a dream when they sleep, a day dream, or zoned out can be hypnotized.

Who is affected by it?

Anyone who wants to be hypnotized. That’s it. And that’s where the science aspect comes in. I believe that the previous users of hypnosis could only understand and explain hypnosis as a sort of mystic, divine gift or some sort of magic that only wizards and conjurers could wield. I think it’s really only a form of natural science which we’ve only begun to understand.

What about the idea that you won’t remember what happened/won’t have control of your body while being hypnotized?

True. Also, not true. It depends on the hypnotist and the suggestions. If the hypnotic suggestion instructed you to (in verbatim) “forget everything that took place under hypnosis” then, yes, you will not feel like you were in control of your body. However, a good hypnotist will first ask you about this and proceed with much caution and care. We have seen, however, people being taken advantage of while being hypnotized. So be careful if you do decide to explore hypnosis, there is a danger if the hypnotist has ill intent!

So that’s what I know about hypnosis. There are many more points to cover that I will decidedly not explore this time, however, maybe another time I will. Please use the poll below and also a comment if you feel so inclined to help me get an understanding of your opinions. Thanks everyone!