Category Archives: Heart-Mind-Soul

Things dealing with the body, the spirit and the eternal soul. Emotions, personal awareness and religion abound in these, sometimes very personal, posts.

Finding the needle in the haystack

*I hope this is the only time happens, but I had to go through this thing and update a lot of it. Sorry about that. The pen is mightier than the sword, but in the hands of tired eyes the keyboard can seemingly run away with a bulldozer before you know what has happened.*

There’s only a few times in life that we actually find something worth holding on to, and rarely do we actually try hard to protect what we’ve found because we’ve become blind to how good life really is, especially when it’s good. You never know what you had until it’s gone. I agree with this, though I have learned that possess something that cannot be taken away because of a break-up: me. I will always have myself. Yes, I am talking about relationships, but don’t worry, it’s not all that bad. Yeah, breakups suck, especially when you’ve become fixated on being with one person and you’ve decided you’d do anything for them just to show how much you actually do care. You can’t stop other people from making their choices, but you can try to be better for yourself regardless of their choices. I disagree with people that tell me “I think you need to be ok being alone.” They usually tell me that in between their makeout sessions with their boyfriends. I find it ironic, really. I’d like to tell them to breakup with their boyfriends, be ok with it and after a year decide whether or not they want a relationship. Funny how people change their ideas when the boot is on the other foot. Of course, I wouldn’t tell them that, simply because I hate the idea of breakups and I think people should just work their issues out together, because in the long run that would make a much stronger bond in the relationship. Think of it this way: what would have happened had Peeta decided to throw in the towel when Katniss wasn’t very accepting of his kindnesses? I mean, Peeta could have just killed her, won the game and been done with it. Right? Or maybe an even better, would the ring had ever been destroyed if Samwise just told Frodo he was done with the drama and given up on him? I mean, Frodo was REALLY hard on Sam for a while there. In the end, the ring was destroyed not because of Frodo alone, but because of Samwise’s commitment to the journey, because he knew what the result of his perseverance would be, and it wasn’t to glorify himself either. Samwise stuck it out, and helped even when Frodo was anything but pleasant.

Ok, I know what you’re thinking “But you’ve been divorced, how can you be against breakups and be so strongly for people working through their issues together?”

Yeah, I know. Seems hypocritical. But it’s not, it’s actually the basis for my argument, and it’s a damn good argument, too. Let’s start from the beginning, shall we? God made Adam. Adam was lonely (before there were women, so don’t give me the line “he was lonely because he saw Even and wanted to be with her.” Bologna!). God, seeing Adam was alone and that it was not good for him to be alone, made him a helpmate: a woman named Eve. Then they made some choices, got into trouble, were ashamed…the usual weekend stuff. Ok, even if you don’t believe the Bible, come on, are you going to argue the logic?
So to sum it up: God made Adam, God saw Adam needed a woman, Eve was created. Created because Adam had a need. Interesting that God would design us to be relationship creatures, yet so many of us decide that what’s more important is myself.

But that’s a whole different topic…me, me, me. Mine, mine, mine. I want, I want I want. It’s what all the cool kids are saying these days, aren’t they? Self glorification. Self idolization. Self salvation. It’s all rubbish.

From this we understand that God created relationships, in fact, He designed people to have a relationship with Him. Also, before the apple was consumed people (all 2 of them) were without sin, and even without sin Adam needed Eve. Adam….needed….Eve. Are you guys getting this???

This isn’t my argument for me being in a relationship, let’s just make this perfectly clear. This is an argument to those who tell you “you need to be ok with yourself alone” while they are in a relationship, which to me seems ultra-hypocritical. Just saying. Neither, however, am I saying “get in a relationship!” What I’m trying to say is, if you’re in a relationship, work on your issues. Bring them to God, together. Work them out, become the strong bond that most couples only hope to achieve.

Going back to the whole divorce thing…it takes two to tango, as my dad always said. Even though he doesn’t tango. Or dance at all.
It takes two people to work on their issues, their problems, their worries, their concerns, their relationship. Why? Because a relationship between two people goes deeper than the skin, it goes deeper than emotions, and it goes deeper than the memories. What you create together is a bond between the spirits. When that bond is broken there is a great loss, because we were designed to be in a relationship. It’s not terribly complicated. People say “oh, I didn’t work out with him because our personalities were conflicting” or “she just didn’t have that spark that she once had, it was like she just didn’t make me feel good anymore”. I call bullshit! Conflicting personalities? What were you attracted to in the beginning? That spark? Of course that goes away a little after a while, it’s called being an imperfect human and dealing with each other’s shit!

Ok, I’ll get off the soap box now. But just so you know, the next time someone confides to you “I think I want to breakup with her/him” don’t take advantage of the situation like many lazy, slack-jawed idiots. Just remind them that they were created for a relationship, that working it out has a much greater outcome than running away, and that it’s truly a blessing to realize what they have before it’s too late.
And the congregation said amen.

~B

I want you – original lyrics, work in progress

you came home last night again, smelling like another man’s world

I’ve been here waiting since you left, and it seems like I’m waiting still

you won’t look me in the eyes, guess i know the reason why

when you talk you talk small, but that isn’t the worse of it all

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I want you, I want you

nothing more in this world, I want you

I want you deep in my arms with your beautiful smile

I want you

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everything I held deep inside, all my fears and my pride

I gave to you in the light, in hopes that someone would understand

but I was wrong and now every night, I’ll be screaming your name on the inside

tearing me open, on the inside

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I wanted you, I wanted you

nothing more in the world, I wanted you

I wanted you deep in my heart with your beautiful mind

I wanted you

but you decided you wouldn’t want me

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these original lyrics by Brian G. Jacobs, 2013

no permission to reproduce these lyrics is expressed unless when allowed by Brian G. Jacobs

The Rose – Original lyrics, work in progress

Girl let that rose, grow in the land, I just want, to hold your hand

Will you be mine, forever? I just want, for us to be together

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I will never leave, I will always love you

Even in the dark, I will always hold you

Even if the danger comes, I will always fight for you

When it’s time to go I will still love you…

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Everyday I, wake to your face, I’ll count my blessings, in our homey place

We’ll spend a lifetime, doing many things, And its of you, that my heart sings

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I will never leave, I will always love you

Even in the dark, I will always hold you

Even if the danger comes, I will always fight for you

When it’s time to go I will still love you…

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Girl put them flowers, down on the stone, And go back to, the place we called home

Call our friends and, family my love, And don’t cry because, I’ll be watching you from above

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I will never leave, I will always love you

Even in the dark, I will always hold you

Even if the danger comes, I will always fight for you

When it’s time to go I will still love you…

these original lyrics by Brian G. Jacobs, 2013

no permission to reproduce these lyrics is expressed unless when allowed by Brian G. Jacobs

Everything – Original lyrics, work in progress

everything that you thought you were fighting for, is lying naked with him on the floor
all your emotions and every tear, only validate your simple fears

well, don’t give up, and don’t give in,

this life will turn out right, in the end.

and don’t give up, no, don’t fall in,

that grave is deeper than you think, my friend.

everything she said to never fear, is looking back at her now, my “dear”
how can she deny when I know, all the dirty seeds that she’s sown

well, don’t give up, and don’t give in

this life will turn out right, in the end

don’t give up, no, don’t fall in

that grave is deeper than you think, my friend

and every day must become night,

and every night will come to an end,

it’s hard to forget the pain,

when she was your everything

these original lyrics by Brian G. Jacobs, 2013

no permission to reproduce these lyrics is expressed unless when allowed by Brian G. Jacobs

A day with me

Instead of writing a “how to” style piece, I’m just going to update you guys what I do in a day. I’ll start tomorrow when I wake up and stop keeping track when I go to bed. Stay tuned tomorrow! I will update every 6 hours with as much detail as I feel necessary, though I expect to turn over a few rocks throughout the day. Should turn out entertaining…
~B

Catching up on sleep

The process of finding the time to sleep, prioritizing that time for the maximized potential, and applying the mechanics necessary to facilitate wholesome rest, can be a daunting task in today’s fast paced, action centric world. There are so many elements per day that prevent us from one of the most important activities we can engage in. It’s hard to regain energy throughout the day unless you rest, consume food or drink, or receive benefits from an enhancement such as drugs (prescription or non, alcohol, etc.) and therapies. So, why is it that we ignore one of the greatest needs the body could ever ask for?

 Because we just don’t care. Sort of…

One possibility is because we don’t care about our bodies. I hope that isn’t true for you, reader. The consequences of carelessness, especially when pertaining to our bodies, are pretty negative. Here’s some information, as it is aware to me, though without proper research I am probably wrong in some of my understandings…

Here’s something I found on Ezine that helps shed the light of the risks of overeating, specifically obesity.

Article Source: http://www.EzineArticles.com/117549

When we over eat we are vulnerable to obesity, which of course increases the risks of:

  • hypertension
  • high blood pressure
  • heart disease
  • stroke
  • cancer
  • diabetes
  • endocrine problems
  • gall bladder disease
  • arthritis
  • lung and breathing  problems
  • bone deterioration
  • sleep disturbances (sleep apnea)

The article was helpful and maybe you’d like to check it out too, but that’s a list of possible disorders and conditions that could affect your health from not taking care of your body, just by overeating. Notice the last one?

How else can we not take care of our bodies? How about dehydration…

Here’s something from http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/dehydration/DS00561/DSECTION=complications which is a link to a list of probable complications due to dehydration as made public from Mayo Clinic, a professional opinion when it comes to all things medical. Here is a condensed version of their list:

  • Heat injury
  • Swelling of the brain (cerebral edema)
  • Seizures
  • Low blood volume shock (hypovolemic shock)
  • Kidney failure
  • Coma and death

So, obviously, dehydration is one way to show our body we don’t care about it. Oh, by the way, there is a MULTITUDE of reasons one can become dehydrated (soda, exercise, summer heat, winter dry air, medications, medical conditions, just forgetting to drink enough water, etc.), the point is: DRINK WATER! But, if you drink less than 2 hours before bed you may need to get up in the middle of the night to relieve some pressure in your bladder. So drink water, but not before bed.

Okay, consume food in moderation and drink plenty of water. How else can we show our body we care about it? Or, actually, how can we show our body we do not care for it? Well, there’s plenty of examples, one I’m thinking of is drugs (prescription, non-prescription, alcohol) but let’s cut to the chase and talk about why we’re reading this: sleep. More specifically the loss of sleep and trying to get those lost hours back.

Before we figure out what we can do to get those hours back, we should first ask some questions: Why is sleep so important to the body? What is the definition of the inability to sleep? What causes my sleep disorders? How can I cure my sleep disorders? What are the risks of sleeping less than the body needs? How much sleep is enough, and is this number the same for everyone?

I don’t have all the answers, but I can share with you the things I agree with and have at least a little experience with. Remember, I am no learned man by any means and all my words are those of experience and the only method of learning I know how: trial by fire.

Why is sleep so important to the body?

Wow. Here, read ALL of this: http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/health-topics/topics/sdd/why.html It’s a great post and I encourage you to take the 5-10 minutes to read through it. Basically, it’s like this: take your computer as an example. After being on for days on end with no break, and constantly processing calculations, posting updates to Facebook and Twitter, sharing photos on Instagram, watching videos on YouTube, checking out new ideas on Pintrest, writing and reading many blogs, etc. your computer becomes warm to the touch, maybe even hot in certain areas and has started to bog down. Now, it is taking a little more time to: open up webpages, load bigger and more demanding programs, load YouTube videos…you get the picture. That is, until you take the time to restart the computer, which helps to clear some of that suspended information that is fragments of the processes of the day.

Ok, I know it’s not a perfect illustration, so let me try to say it again (because it truly is THAT important!): after a full day of thinking and making decisions and feeling emotions our brains become tired. Unlike a computer, a brain is the component of a living, breathing, feeling, dying body. It takes real energy for our brains to compose information into a form of data we can use to make decisions. When we sleep, we regain that energy BUT we also create easier paths, or channels, for our brain to use to make those processes faster which also creates a need for less energy for that particular process. There will be thousands of processes, paths, and channels the brain will be working on during sleep to provide maximum efficiency for the day ahead and it’s important to allow the brain to do what it was designed to do. So, in conclusion, sleep is important to the body for the brain to take all the mental activity of the day and decompress all the stored information so that it can work at a better efficiency.

What is the definition of the inability to sleep?

We’ve all heard the term “insomnia”. Well, let me tell you, friends, it’s a monster under the bed and it scares the hell out of me! It is defined by Wikipedia as this:

“Insomnia is most often thought of as both a sign and a symptom that can accompany several sleep, medical, and psychiatric disorders characterized by a persistent difficulty falling asleep and/or staying asleep or sleep of poor quality. Insomnia is typically followed by functional impairment while awake.” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Insomnia

I’ve dealt with insomnia, I know friends and family that deal with it, and let me tell you, it’s a burden. The health deprivation that accompanies insomnia is dramatic, and for good reason. There are more reasons than insomnia to explain why you may have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, but let’s explore insomnia as the reason for today.

What causes my sleep disorders?

I don’t know the answer to that. You and your health professional need to discuss your symptoms and environment to figure that out. Of course, the internet does provide some really good ideas as to what might be the root of our problem. Check this list out from, again, Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Insomnia#Causes_and_comorbidity And here’s a truncated list of some of those items:

  • Use of psychoactive drugs. Includes: prescriptions, herbs, caffeine, nicotine, and excessive alcohol intake. Also the use of cocaine and other illegal drugs.
  • Withdrawal from anti-anxiety drugs
  • Restless leg syndrome
  • Pain
  • Hormones
  • Fear, stress and anxiety
  • Constipation
  • Mental disorders
  • etc….

There’s just too many to list here and in greater detail, please check out the previously provided link for the full list. I’m sure there could be stuff that isn’t on that list that may or may not be affecting you.

How can I cure my sleep disorders?

Curing your sleep disorder may be as simple as removing soda or coffee from your nightly routine, eating earlier in the evening, turning on some relaxing music or sounds to fall asleep to, changing your sheets a little more often or buying a new pillow every six months. But, and I hope your resolution comes easily, you may find that it will take a little more work than simply deciding to change a habit or replacing a pillow. You may need to take counseling, change medications, buy a new mattress, adjust your sleep schedule, or something even more dramatic. Be prepared to explore all options as a possible source of success to your improved sleep and control over your disorder. But, I believe it will ultimately come down to taking care of any and all apparent reasons first and then explore hidden possibilities under the supervision of your health care provider.

What are the risks of sleeping less than the body needs?

We, in part, covered this already. So let me just say again: sleep is as important as good diet and proper exercise. Sleep helps your brain to decompress the thoughts of the entire day into sorted data and makes a stronger connection, faster path, or clearer channel to the processes it used during the day. This makes the next day that much more enjoyable, for your brain. Happy brain, happy day.

How much sleep is enough, and is this same number for everyone?

That’s for you to find out, and no, it is a different number for everyone. Here’s why. The body is, on a biological level, programmed to sleep at a certain point in a 24 hour period. These circadian dips add another level to some of the reasons we can’t fall asleep when we try! I, personally, get super tired between 11:30pm and 1:00am. That’s my circadian dip. Usually, if I’m awake for a 24 hour period, and I hit that circadian dip, I’m yawning, my vision goes in and out and I can’t comprehend conversations. It is, in a way, funny to watch, I must admit, but it’s a dangerous place between consciousness and unconsciousness. My friends laugh when they see me hit this point because I’m wobbling, can’t keep balance, say really random things and forget some of the most important things in my life. I don’t blame them, it is pretty hilarious to watch, but for me, it’s not a safe place. However, about an hour after my circadian dip I’m back to reality and ready to go for another day. It’s as if my mind is saying “ok, time to rest….oh, no rest, eh? *sigh* alright boys, start ’em up again!” It’s quite impressive, to me, that the body can endure so much abuse.

But, to better answer the question, the amount of sleep you need is based upon your understanding of your body. So, if you feel tired, unhappy, unmotivated, and unable to make decisions after 8 hours of sleep then you know you need to change something. Maybe it’s the time you go to bed? Finding your circadian dip and going to bed slightly before that time should provide some of the best sleep. Again, if my circadian dip is between 11:30 and 1:00 then I know I need to go to bed between 11 and 12 to take advantage of that biologically programmed time for my body to get the best rest possible.

Sometimes, there’s a kink in the chain that prevents us from fully realizing the maximum potential rest possible from sleeping with our circadian dip, such as a work schedule. Such as working at 3am. This makes it basically impossible to sleep during my circadian dip. The good news is that there is some research on the possibility of “paying back” lost sleep, which was the original intent of this post, but, I don’t know much about it, so I’ll do some research and let you know what I find.

I hope you are able to get some rest, friends!

~B

P.S. As I’ve said in other posts, PLEASE, understand that I’m not a learned man, I don’t have an education in health, and I don’t assume any responsibility for information you read here that you decide to apply to your life. You should talk with your health professional if you are experiencing health problems that prevent you from proper sleep habits.

You Decide! Hypnosis: black magic or stupid human trick

I’ve been recently dabbling in the mystic art of hypnosis. Or, should I say, I’ve been interested, lately, in the super focused, state-of-mind, science trick called hypnosis. Either way you look at it, hypnosis is real. The purpose is what we’re after, however, not the validity of the claim of hypnosis. So, is it a black magic gate way activity, secretly luring unaware and uneducated people down a dark and immortally ill path? Or is it simply one of the stupid human tricks designed and created with good intentions and great possibility? Here, we lay out some facts and allow you to decide for yourself. When it comes to the important questions, like for instance, “is this a dark activity that will take my soul?” I want you to be at least a little more informed than when you started reading, if not having made up your mind for yourself. But first, before I start laying out the facts (which will all be based upon my experience), let me tell you of my experiences with hypnosis.

I first encountered hypnosis, like many American children, watching the TV or a movie, I forget the original exposure media, but I do remember a man holding a watch in his hand, suspended slightly above the subject’s eye level repeating the overly familiar mantra: “you’re getting sleepy”. At first impression I can recall that I surmised this was some sort of magic trick. I held that belief until I started reading comic books, which is when I believe that hypnotists held some sort of evil mind control power. Ah, the young mind. We made some wild assumptions as children, didn’t we? I mean, we never do that today…
sarcasm abounds.

I actually believed that hypnotists held evil mind control power until only a few years ago, when I saw a stage hypnotist. This guy was hilarious and incorporated a very positive hypnotic suggestion at the end of the show, which was awesome of him to gift everyone since we’re bombarded by negative and downright hateful hypnotic suggestions everyday through the media and in conversations. Who couldn’t use a little positivity? “Evil? How could hypnosis be evil when we just saw him incorporate a very positive hypnotic suggestion? He is using hypnosis to build up a healthy self image in other people.” I found it funny, to myself of course, that his for-a-positive-life hypnotic suggestion came at the end of the show, almost like a benediction at the end of a church sermon. A silly simile.
He had, before the show began, asked if anyone wanted to be a part of the show. I sat on my hands. I was there as a spectator, not a participator. I was told by my parents that hypnosis was from the devil who, by the way, controls the minds of those who dabble in the mystic arts of witchcraft and of black magic, so I wanted nothing to do with this, other than watch, of course. As I admired the bravery and the stupidity of the participants on stage I found that I was questioning the reason that hypnosis was available to us as humans. “Could we use this to our benefit somehow? Is this simply a method of entertainment? Is it possible that this is only another method of self destruction?”

One of my life long interests includes the medical field, I’ve always wanted to be a surgeon, so naturally I wondered how hypnosis would fit with that interest. I’ve spent hours online, since then, learning about hypnosis and hypnotic suggestions. Did you know there are recorded events of surgeries that have taken place without local anesthesia thanks to hypnosis? That’s amazing! Okay, now I was hooked. If there was good to be done with hypnosis I wanted to learn about it. It’s like my girlfriend always says about her wardrobe: “it’s good to have options”.
For the past 6 months or so I’ve been learning (off and on, when I have time) to read as much as I can about hypnosis and the myths that surround it. I will now show you my findings as we judge whether hypnosis is just, simply, a stupid human trick or if it really is a dark magic reserved for those destined to spend their eternity in hell.

What is it, really?

Hypnosis, basically, is an altered stated of mind that increases suggestibility. It’s this suggestibility that is the key for hypnosis to be successful. It’s in this state of mind that the hypnotist can make a hypnotic suggestion that would become ingrained in the subconscious mind and, subsequently, acted upon. For example, a man is successfully hypnotized and the hypnotic suggestion instructs him to forget the number 4. Amusing. Especially when the hypnotist pulls the man out of hypnosis and asks him to hold up his hand and count the fingers out loud. It proceeds like this:

Hypnotist: “Please, hold up your hand and count your fingers out loud.”
Man: “1, 2, 3, 5, 6. Wait, I thought I only had five fingers? …um, lemme try again…1, 2, 3, 5, 6! What?!?” and so on.

You may start to see where this becomes useful or dangerous, depending on the hypnotist and his/her intentions. This is where the definition of hypnosis becomes hazy and unclear, due to abusers with ill intent.

It’s origin.

Hypnosis is old, and a little shady. Some of the first recorded hypnosis in history includes Egypt’s old kingdom, some 5,000 years ago. It was a tool used by the priests there to aid the weary in hopefully gaining a cure for their ailments in locales called “sleep temples”. It spread through the world with much popularity. And now the shady part…
Apparently it aided oracles in their offerings, also. Oracles were employed by temples to divine the future, something that shouldn’t be performed by us mere mortals, in my opinion. You know, since we know nothing about immortality and the future, relatively speaking when compared to God, the Almighty. And since it’s not a healthy practice…just sayin’.

It’s purpose and intent.

This is completely up to the hypnotist.
Entertainment?
Money?
Bettering lives?
An evil desire?

This is also what helps to define (for good, or evil) the current status of hypnosis. If more hypnotists were devoted to helping others battle their addictions and emotional ailments instead of trying to greedily take what does not belong to them we would have a more positive image of hypnosis. Until then, we don’t

Who can use it?

This is the funny part…ready? Anyone. Seriously. And by the way, we’re hypnotized everyday by all sorts of little things. TV, driving, work, daydreams…all can create a state of hypnosis. Oh, and by the way, you don’t need a hypnotist to be hypnotized. Actually a hypnotist doesn’t hypnotize you! You allow yourself to be hypnotized and the hypnotist only assists you. So, anyone who has ever had a dream when they sleep, a day dream, or zoned out can be hypnotized.

Who is affected by it?

Anyone who wants to be hypnotized. That’s it. And that’s where the science aspect comes in. I believe that the previous users of hypnosis could only understand and explain hypnosis as a sort of mystic, divine gift or some sort of magic that only wizards and conjurers could wield. I think it’s really only a form of natural science which we’ve only begun to understand.

What about the idea that you won’t remember what happened/won’t have control of your body while being hypnotized?

True. Also, not true. It depends on the hypnotist and the suggestions. If the hypnotic suggestion instructed you to (in verbatim) “forget everything that took place under hypnosis” then, yes, you will not feel like you were in control of your body. However, a good hypnotist will first ask you about this and proceed with much caution and care. We have seen, however, people being taken advantage of while being hypnotized. So be careful if you do decide to explore hypnosis, there is a danger if the hypnotist has ill intent!

So that’s what I know about hypnosis. There are many more points to cover that I will decidedly not explore this time, however, maybe another time I will. Please use the poll below and also a comment if you feel so inclined to help me get an understanding of your opinions. Thanks everyone!

~B